It's A NO FOR ME

We hear it all the time: Set boundaries. Say no. Protect your peace. And yet, when it’s time to draw that line in the sand, many of us freeze. We know boundaries are good for us—essential, even. They help us preserve our energy, honor our values, and show up authentically. But let’s be real: setting limits can feel like a full-body workout for the soul.

Boundaries aren’t just about saying no to others—they’re about saying yes to yourself. They can be physical, emotional, time-based, relational, or energetic. And while they’re necessary for long-term wellness, they often come with short-term discomfort. Why? Because we’ve been conditioned to believe some myths that make boundary-setting feel like betrayal.

Myths That Sabotage Our Boundaries

•             Saying yes to avoid conflict or rejection

•             Believing that setting limits is selfish or uncaring

•             Deriving self-worth from being the “go-to” person

•             Thinking you “owe” someone your time or energy

•             Not knowing your own limits

These myths are heavy. They weigh us down with guilt, fear, and obligation. But here’s the truth: boundaries are not walls—they’re bridges to deeper self-respect.

 Put Your Oxygen Mask On First

We’ve all heard it a thousand times. On airplanes. In therapy. In motivational talks. Put your own oxygen mask on first. It’s safety advice—and it’s life advice. Don’t die saving others who won’t even reach for the life vest. You deserve to breathe.

 Tips for Setting Boundaries That Stick

1.            Master the word NO.

Say it with me: No. See? You can do it. If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no. Period.

2.            Remember your why.

When things get rough, anchor yourself in what matters. What do you value? What do you hope for? Boundaries become clearer when you’re tuned into your truth.

3.            Get curious about your limits.

Ask yourself: What drains me? What feeds me? Your body and spirit will tell you—if you’re willing to listen.

4.            Be direct and clear.

Communicate your boundaries with honesty and compassion. And most importantly, honor them yourself. If you don’t respect your boundaries, no one else will.

5.            Start small.

You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. Begin with one boundary. Keep it simple. Build your muscle.

Setting boundaries isn’t about being mean—it’s about being meaningful. It’s about choosing yourself, even when it’s uncomfortable. And it’s about reclaiming your time, your energy, and your voice.